DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SAFETY PLAN
Everyone Has A Right To Be Safe
1. Safety - During an Explosive Incident
- A. If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it in a room or area
that has access to an exit and not in the bathroom, kitchen, or anywhere near weapons.
- B. Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which
doors, windows, elevator, or stairwell would be best.
- C. Have a packed bag ready and keep it in an
undisclosed but accessible place in order to leave quickly.
- D. Identify a neighbor you can tell about the violence and ask that
they call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home.
- E. Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends, and
neighbors when you need the police.
- F. Decide and plan for where you will go if you have to leave home
(even if you don't think you will need to).
- G. Use your own instincts and judgment. If the situation is very
dangerous, consider giving the abuser what the abuser wants to calm him or her down.
You have the right to protect yourself until you are out of danger.
- H. Always remember: YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE HIT OR THREATENED!
2. Safety - When Preparing to Leave
- A. Open a savings account in your own name to start to establish or
increase your independence. Think of other ways in which you can increase your
- B. Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important
documents and extra clothes with someone you trust so you can leave quickly.
- C. Determine who would be able to let you stay with them or lend you
- D. Keep the shelter phone number close at hand and keep some change or
a calling card on you at all times for emergency phone calls.
- E. Review your safety plan as often as possible in order to plan the
safest way to leave your abuser. Remember - Leaving your abuser is the
most dangerous time.
3. Safety - In Your Own Home
- A. Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible. Buy
additional locks and safety devices to secure your windows.
- B. Discuss a safety plan with your children for when you are not with
- C. Inform your children's school, day care, etc., about who has
permission to pick up your children.
- D. Inform neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with
you and that they should call the police if they see the abuser near your home.
Show them a photo of the abuser.
4. Safety - With a Protective Order
- A. Keep your protective order on you at all times. (When you
change your purse, that should be the first thing that goes in it.)
- B. Call the police if your partner/abuser breaks the protective order.
- C. Think of alternative ways to keep safe, if the police do not respond
- D. Inform family, friends, neighbors that you have a protective order
5. Safety - On the Job and in Public
- A. Decide who at work you will inform of your situation. This
should include office or building security (provide a picture of your abuser if possible).
- B. Arrange to have someone screen your telephone calls if possible.
- C. Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. Have someone
escort you to your car or bus. Use a variety of routes to go home by if possible. Think
about what you would do if something happened while going home (i.e., in your car, on the
6. Your Safety & Emotional Health
- A. If you are thinking of returning to an potentially abusive
situation, discuss an alternative plan with someone you trust.
- B. If you have to communicate with your partner, determine the safest
way to do so.
- C. Have positive thoughts about yourself and be assertive with others
about your needs.
- D. Read books, articles, and poems to help you feel stronger.
- E. Decide who you can call to talk freely and openly to give you the
support you need.
- F. Plan to attend a victim's support group for at least 2 weeks to gain
support from others and learn more about yourself and the relationship.
7. Safety - If You Are a Teen in a Violent Dating Relationship
- A. Decide which friend, teacher, relative or police officer you can
- B. Contact an advocate at the court to decide how to obtain a
restraining order and make a safety plan.
Contact Information & Links
BATTERED WOMEN'S SHELTERS & CRISIS INTERVENTION
|Domestic Violence Hotline
|Sexual Assault Victim
|YWCA Family Crisis
|Lower Valley Crisis & Support
|Open Line (24 Hours)
|Adult Protective Services
|Child Protective Services
|Salvation Army Family Services
CLINICS AND HOSPITALS
|Providence Hospital (Toppenish)
|Providence Medical Center
|Sunnyside Community Hospital
|Yakima Neighborhood Health Services
|Yakima Valley Farm Worker's Clinic (Yakima)
|Yakima Valley Farm Worker's Clinic (Toppenish)
|Yakima Valley Memorial Hospital